Healing From Past Life Relationships
Have you ever had a connection that was so immediate that it seemed like someone you've always known just popped in and re-introduced themselves. How do I know this person? You might think, only to come up short.
Our culture has done a good job at blowing this whole soulmate concept right out of the water. We're inundated from childhood with images of the princess and prince, the couple who would do anything, including give their lives, for each other. And yet, in my own life, these intense soulmate connections have proved challenging. I tend to run into them thinking, Finally! Prince charming! only to leave going What the hell happened?
It seems that at least some soul connections require healing from past interactions. Certain people do come into our lives to work out past karma, and others will carry an energetic signature of a past dynamic. Were you and a loved one at some point a master and a slave? Do you feel that way in your current situation, like you're playing out a specific role like an actor in a play? Almost without trying, you continue in a behavior that doesn't make sense for the current situation. Why is it so hard to get out of this? You might think. Believe me, I've been there. What we bring in with us from the past can certainly require extra effort to identify and release.
When I first met Joey (name changed, for obvious reasons) it was straight out of a movie. Dressed in my best, headed to a party, I swept passed a garden stand, relishing the divinely heavy floral scent when out of nowhere; a tall, handsome man in trousers and rolled sleeves stepped out into my path. "Miss, miss, wait a minute, sit with me," he said, gesturing to two chairs off to the side. Immediately, an aura of otherworldliness descended upon me, catching me off guard. What, how, why? I had no words, but hesitantly acquiesced and took a seat across from this man.
Somehow, we had a discussion- names, where are you from, what do you do- but it was as if we were just checking in on the particulars of each others' lives like we would listen to the details of a loved one's day. It was as if we were catching up.
Being around him was like having a spotlight on me. I felt wrapped in a blanket of love and warmth. It was the stuff of old love songs.
Are the stars out tonight
I don't know if it's cloudy or bright
I only have eyes for you dear
When it came crashing to an end, which it did after I found out he had lied about some pretty important parts of his life (example: being single, for one); I have never cried so hard. It felt like my future had been taken away from me. The plans we had made were dissolved just like that. It was an abrupt change, and a hard one. I found myself seeking some explanation for the intensity of not only our connection, but the break up. Why had he lied? Seeking answers, I turned to past-life regression.
Past life regression can be extremely helpful and illuminating for things that challenge us for reasons that just don't make sense to us. Why do we get really afraid when we get close to a large animal (maybe you were eaten by one), or why do we have trouble opening up (a loved one in the past betrayed us), or even why we can't have something tight wrapped around our neck (guillotine anyone?). We do come in with certain tendencies. A friend's daughter, for instance, is highly self-conscious, easily upset, always concerned that she's being cheated, and sensitive when even gently corrected. She has particular challenges that her siblings just don't have. There are certainly a number of factors that one can attribute this to. You can put it off to nature, nurture, or a combination of the two, but I tend to think it's something her spirit came in with. Not chemical, but spiritual.
In my past life regression session, I found myself with Joey on a crowded cobbled street. Although he looked different, I recognize him by the way he felt - comfortable, warm, and funny. We were children, poor, and petty thieves. At some point, I stole something, blamed him, and left him to deal with the consequences. Seeing this life play out before me was really helpful by allowing me to see the inner workings of our history that engineered our meeting. Our spirits were connected by a karmic debt. I, in a way, owed him.
So how do we stop this cycle of betrayed-betrayal? How do we come to a neutral place? The answer, I believe, is forgiveness. Forgiving myself, and forgiving him. Without this, I may forever hold a grudge, cease trusting men, or even stop myself from experiencing love again. I might condemn him, never to understand that his motivations for doing what he did were, at least in part, something he didn't necessarily have control over. Perhaps his intentions were really good, and then everything sort of got away from him. It allows me to see the other possibilities rather than feeling like a victim and remaining hurt.
If you're interested in learning more about past-life regression and soulmates, come check out our soulmates and reincarnation class tomorrow night on Learnitlive.com. Janice is leading it, and you're sure to learn alot. If you can't come tomorrow, check out the recording. You can still undergo the hypnotherapy, even if its after the fact. If you have any questions, comments, or maybe even your own story to share; feel free to comment below or email us!